Debra Kunz

Few women escape the programming that starts at the beginning of our lives: be a princess and wait for prince charming to come and rescue us. What we’re being rescued from is still a mystery, though I am certainly a product of that belief, and those experiences. The programming issues surface as they translate into expectations and beliefs that women don’t have a life unless we’re in a relationship. Like we’re not whole unless we can say we have a man which creates tendencies to let just any man in our lives.

Especially since the programming continues with an underlying idea that relationships begin with a woman wanting the man, and the man needing to be conquered into a commitment. Mix all that together and we justify idiotic behavior from a man who isn’t worthy of our attention.

For those of you wondering if I’m implying that everyone should be single, let me put your mind at ease. No, I am not. What I’m saying is being in a relationship with whoever is around just to say you are in one is settling, not choosing someone worthy of wonderful you.

Careful of the But… He’s Different Syndrome. It’s Part 2 of “Are You a Cinderella Head” next week.

Date Deliberately,

Debra

P.S. If you don’t want to wait until next week, see chapter 2 in my book Love is Blind Only if You Are: A Woman’s Clear-Headed Guide to Deliberate Dating for more info.