Debra Kunz

Dating can be complicated. Actually, dating is complicated, and becomes more complicated the older we get and the more life experience and potential baggage we carry. Often, it’s complicated because we’ve created problems, or assumed there are problems, where none really exist.

Here are some “it’s complicated” examples:

>You choose someone to date you know you want to change = complicated.

>You choose someone to date you know isn’t interested in a relationship and you are = complicated.

>You choose someone to date who isn’t quite divorced yet = complicated.

>You choose someone to date who lives in another state = complicated.

>You choose someone to date who is still dragging around their emotional baggage = complicated.

What do all of these complications have in common? – “You choose…”.  Whether or not the complication is something you are willing to cope with, tolerate, or embrace, it’s still your choice. If the complications are a deal breaker for you, then let it be simple and move on. If they aren’t deal breakers, then acknowledge this is going to be difficult and enjoy the journey.

Either way, the stress goes down, the fear diminishes, and you stand up a little straighter when you realize “you choose” to become part of this scenario.

Date Deliberately,

Debra