Debra Kunz

First dates are brimming with anticipation, excitement, questions and curiosity. With all of that energy, the number one question, besides what should I wear, is what do I say??? What should I talk about? What should I share? What if it gets quiet?

Stop worrying and take a breath.

After you figure out your outfit, yes I started with that since you probably did too. So, after you have your outfit figured out, stop worrying about what you will say, and focus more on what you will ask. What would you like to learn about this man? What has already intrigued you about him? What do you have in common you could discuss or share stories about? Those are all good places to begin.

Some of you are wondering – What should I avoid saying? That’s an easy answer – bitching about your ex, complaining about your last date, and dissecting the people you’ve met online – especially if you met this man online. Don’t dump your entire life story on him either. That’s a little overwhelming.

Remember, you are out on a first date with the man in front of you so focus on him, learning about him and getting to know him a little better. Asking him questions, genuinely listening to the answers, and allowing a little silence so he can ask you something, will help keep the conversation flowing.

Take some pressure of yourself, stop worrying about the conversation, and enjoy yourself. Remember, your only purpose on a first date is to see if you want to have a second, not to decide if you are going to live happily ever after.

Date Deliberately,

Debra