Debra Kunz

Dating during the holidays is all about expectations. Are you interested in him enough to take the time to get him a gift? Is he interested enough in you to take the time to get you a gift?

If you’ve only been on a few dates with him, don’t expect a big gift or a holiday fuss. Could he make one? Of course. Will he? That’s a different question. You aren’t actually in a relationship if you’ve only had a few casual dates here and there, especially if you aren’t even sure if you are ‘exclusive’ or not.

I think we get caught up in wondering what the other will do and try to figure that out before we decide what we will do for them. Maybe you should ask yourself – what do you want to do for him? Then ask yourself if that’s appropriate given the nature of your dates and/or relationship.

Hints for the Men

Would he get extra special bonus points for thinking of you during the holidays and doing something thoughtful? ABSOLUTELY. This advice is for the men who might be reading this. If you are at all interested in her, do something. Take her to a special restaurant or theater or something that shows you are enjoying getting to know her and that you’d like to continue.

What Do You Do For Him

Only use the theater idea if it’s something you know he would actually enjoy. Otherwise, maybe take him to a ballgame or something else he likes. I’d avoid buying tickets to an event that’s several weeks away if this is still a new dating scenario. Unless you are sure this is a relationship, that might be a little much for dating during the holidays.

Something Thoughtful

I gave a guy… Read this story and my other tips in my article on Singles Warehouse.

Date Deliberately,

Debra