Debra Kunz

To take advantage of the beautiful weather, a newly dating couple planned to go miniature golfing after dinner. Neither of them has played in years though both thought it would be fun.

While they were enjoying their meals, she started to notice his comments about the upcoming miniature golf game. He mentioned, again, that he hasn’t played in many years, and continued to repeat it during dinner with a bit of a nervous twitch.

As they arrived at the course, they both noticed the multiple waterfalls and laughed as they thought it was likely to hit the ball into at least one of them. The scoring rules state it’s a one stroke penalty for each bath you gave the ball.

After getting their clubs, he picked up a score sheet and a pencil. She looked surprised as she said, “Do we really want to score this? I thought it was just for fun.” He said, “Of course we want to keep score.”

Sore Loser

To cut to the end of the date, they finish the first nine holes of this eighteen hole course, and she wins by 3 strokes. It was his turn to be surprised as he looked up from his score sheet with his mouth open. When they finished all 18, she’d won the last nine as well. With an exasperated expression he exclaimed that she had won and stomped off to return his club leaving her standing at the last hole by herself.

Clearly this wasn’t a competition he was prepared to lose. Yes, you might insert “to a girl” at the end of that sentence since for some men that is probably true. Or, it could be he’s unhappy with his own performance and the fact that he stomped off has nothing to do with losing to his date.

What Should You Do?

Playing your best and having fun is absolutely the right approach. Don’t play your miniature golf game any differently. Do be proud of your win! Of course, don’t rub the fact that you won in his face or gloat or strut around calling him a loser. No, this woman didn’t do any of those things.

Are You a Couple?

You decide if you are compatible with a man who can’t handle losing a game to you, and if his reasons are ones you can accept. Asking for a friendly rematch, without any grudges, could be fun. Demanding a rematch, because he’s insecure and can’t cope with losing, isn’t fun.

What If You Lost?

You might also consider how you would react if the situation was reversed and you lost. Would you be the gracious ‘loser’, or would you be a sore loser? It’s always a two-way street.

Date Deliberately,

Debra

P.S. Read about 11 Potential Dating Disasters and How to Deal with Them here.