Debra Kunz

Fox News in Kansas City invited me in today to share my “Top 5 Tips to Finding Mr. Right,” and featured my book “Love is Blind Only if You Are: A Woman’s Clear-Headed Guide to Deliberate Dating” as part of a Valentine’s Day story. It was so much fun being interviewed by Kim Byrnes!

Click to watch my interview on Fox TV.

My Valentine’s Day gift for you is a free chapter of my book, and these deliberate dating tips.

1. Breaking up is great to do.

Usually, breaking up is the reason people don’t try. They are afraid of being hurt, and don’t want to go out on yet another first date.  Actually, breaking up is part of the process, and an opportunity to learn something about yourself and your dating choice last time.

2. Recognize the signs of trouble.

Sometimes the signs of trouble are more obvious than we want to admit. Some of the most common ones are- he only calls late at night, only compliments your body, only talks about himself, or you’ve never met his friends. Often, it’s the knot in your gut that says ‘something doesn’t add up.’ Don’t ignore that feeling with the excuse “he’s so hot” or “he’s so much fun.” If you are looking for Mr. Right, is he really someone you could build a life with? Listen to the real answer.

3. Take off your love goggles.

The truth is, love is blind only if you are. Deliberate dating is about dating on purpose, and making decisions using the common sense from your head with the emotions from heart. You no longer date by default, or do things the way you’ve always done them since you understand there’s a big difference between who you end up with versus who you choose.

4. Know who is Mr. Right for You.

Interestingly enough, Mr. Right for You is less about him and more about you. As you’ve lived your life, you’ve learn about yourself, what’s important to you, and your own values. This creates a set of standards for Mr. Right for You, so the next step is giving yourself permission to use them.

5. Don’t let Valentine’s Day make you crazy.

Valentine’s Day can be a lot of pressure, though usually it’s pressure you put on yourself. If you’re single and you don’t want to be single, and the day of love is coming, and all your friends are going out… you can get stuck in a desperate mode. Desperation is really the best date repellent ever. So instead of dwelling on what you don’t have, do something fun for yourself like get a massage, make your favorite meal, or have a chocolate treat and enjoy the day.

The link for my Valentine’s Day gift offering a free chapter was also shown during the interview. Share it with your friends who might want a sample.

Date deliberately,

Debra