Whenever I’m speaking for groups about deliberate dating, the number one question I always get is “where IS he???” “Where is my Mr. Right?” Unfortunately, no one likes my answer given I don’t know where he is. If I knew where everyone’s perfect match was, I’m sure I’d have a much more divinely inspired name.
Here’s what I do know…
One of my book readers was telling me stories about all the things she enjoys doing like taking a cooking class, and all the places she enjoys going like volunteering for her favorite charities. She even told me about being part of a singles group. Yet with each breath, she exclaimed that she could never date anyone she met through any of those places because if it didn’t work out it would be awkward. Of course, that’s probably true.
However, that’s one of the best places to meet him. You are both doing things you enjoy and you already have something in common. If you let the possibility that it won’t work out always make your decisions, you are going to stay single. If you don’t want to be single, but you are letting the risk of taking a chance prevent you from exploring the possibilities, you may not find a great love for yourself. He’s not going to walk up to your doorstep, knock on the door, and introduce himself as your Mr. Right. Getting out and living your life means you get to have some fun while being open to the possibilities!
Take the Risk
Take the time to know yourself, discover what you really want, and how to recognize it. Then, be willing to take the vulnerable risk that it might work out – regardless of where you meet him.
Date Deliberately,
Debra
P.S. If you’d like a private, free, 30 minute Breakthrough Session to reboot your dating life, send me an email at debrakunz@deliberatedating.com. I made room in my schedule for the first seven people who respond.
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