Debra Kunz

Some of you might be thinking, “I should know more about this dating stuff by now. I’m an adult woman. I’m smart. I’ve raised children (or are raising children.) Ran a household. Ran a business. Have grandchildren. Have a career.” Well, let me tell you – your dating age has nothing to do with the year you were born. Nothing. Nada. In fact, a big assumption in dating is your chronological age must equal some sort of dating wisdom… like you’re smarter at this dating stuff given you are now in your thirties, forties, fifties, or sixties and beyond. Nothing could be further from the truth.

The common themes for women starting to date, whether they are eighteen or eighty, are the same issues, concerns, mistakes and questions. Time and time again, women in all decades have the same worries about how to date, where to find him, and how to keep him. The difference being as you get older the baggage can be bigger, and heavier and usually involves more people. Crazy ex’s, multiple ex’s, kids from multiple previous marriages (or not marriages), and even pets. There’s also geography in the mix if the ex and the kids live in a different state or even another country. There may be joint businesses, retirement accounts, and multiple homes. (Untangling all of that is tricky so I hope your lawyer and financial advisor were really good.)

Yet, even with a deeper degree of complication, your fundamental dating age comes down to your own experience, steering clear of the men who are trouble, learning about yourself, figuring out what you want, and how to recognize it. Oh ya, and what to do when you find it.

Consistently, a common flaw is starting with “how do I date” and “who he should be,” before you understand the answers to “who I am,” “what do I want,” and “why do I want to date.” Wherever you are in your life right now, at whatever point you are in your dating journey, it’s ok. The best news about your dating age is your growth and experience advances at your own pace, not according to the calendar.

Date Deliberately,

Debra